The 10 Truths about Likeability

1. Likeability Skill One:
   Know your strengths. Understand your current Limitations.
   
   
2. Likeability Skill Two:
   Don’t ALWAYS have “the” answer. Even if you think you know ALL the time, be willing to swallow your pride and be AGREEABLE.
   Context: If you are teaching or helping someone have the answers (the real ones—not made up). If you are in a normal conversation, be willing to concede to another point of view.
   
   
3. Likeability Skill Three:
   Listen first. Respond 2nd. When responding, piggy back your thoughts into a direct response to what you just listened to. This shows understanding and willingness to help.
   
   
4. Likeability Skill Four:
   Smile More. Not like a clown, but like you enjoy yourself and the company of others. Smiling makes you approachable.
   
   
5. Likeability Skill Five:
   Never buy into the idea that you are bigger or more important than you really are. Keep yourself in check. Job Titles mean very little about power and income has nothing to do with Intelligence.
   
   
6. Likeability Skill Six:
   Help other people. Not because you have to, but because you have the opportunity to.
   
   
7. Likeability Skill Seven:
   When in a position of leadership, step up and lead. Don’t ever lead by a title or “just because.” That’s ignorance. Show people why they want to follow you. Give them a reason. Share responsibilities with your employees. Recognize people regularly. Let your people become leaders by providing tools to aid them. Micro Managing is NOT leading, it’s managing by fear (Your Fear of someone else failing and the responsibility falling at your desk).
   
   
8. Likeability Skill Eight:
   Learn the balance of making your point of view known but not forcing it upon someone else. Disagreements are good when both people are willing to listen and learn. Forcing an opinion “closes” people off and creates tension leading to more separation.
   
   
9. Likeability Skill Nine:
   Be willing. This means be willing to learn, to help, to be open to new concepts, to try something new, or to fail. Failure when used properly will lead to future success. Failure is simply a new somewhat unforeseen learning opportunity. It is a skill and strength builder.
   
   
10. Likeability Skill Ten:
    Be courteous by being more aware. Be aware of where you are and what you are doing. Being oblivious to your surroundings will lead to rudeness and the perception of lack of intelligence. Being aware will open you up to new opportunities and a high level of perception.

Curt Fletcher aka The Likeability Guy, is a Real Estate Professional, Business Development Strategist, Published Author of the book, "How To Sell More Homes and Increase Your Income," Sales Trainer, and Professional Speaker that focuses on improving your Likeability to increase your Opportunities for Success!

Opportunities Abound!!

Yowza! There are opportunities everywhere.

Seriously.

Opportunities are really just "time" decisions. The more selective you become with your time, the more opportunities you can create.

For instance, you can choose to watch TV for a couple hours each night or you can choose to clarify your position on an issue, prepare for tomorrow's meeting, practice your sales presentation, write about your product, market yourself on the Internet, Network with people you want to meet, or whatever else might improve your current position or knowledge even slightly.

While you may not see results overnight, you will see results in the future. If you ever want another person, prospect, or company to notice you, without just blind luck, you must improve your current standing.

That could be learning a new skill, making yourself more original, or simply generating a buzz about yourself in some form or fashion.

Opportunities are born out of personal time well spent. Don't kid yourself into thinking you are either born with the magic touch or you aren't. That is a bunch of nonsense.

Tiger Woods was born with talent, but if any other human had even a small piece of his work ethic, they would be superstars as well. He creates opportunities every single time he plays golf because he puts the most work in when the cameras aren't turned on. People only see a snapshot of him playing golf 10-15 times per year and winning tournaments.

From that, they deduce he is just a ridiculous athlete with enormous talent. They don't understand that he cultivates his natural talent and learns new skills every single day by practicing ALL day.

The same can be said for most enormously successful people. When nobody is watching they are improving while everyone else stays the same. They read, learn, improve, practice, teach.

They don't expect a handout. They put themselves in the best possible position by working hard in their spare time so when the time is right, they seize their opportunity.

Curt Fletcher aka The Likeability Guy, is a Real Estate Professional, Business Development Strategist, Published Author of the book, "How To Sell More Homes and Increase Your Income," Sales Trainer, and Professional Speaker that focuses on improving your Likeability to increase your Opportunities for Success!

Opening Doors

I can’t tell you how many times I have walked into a store or restaurant behind another person, only to have the door close on me before I can grab it. It is amazing what a lost art the opening of a door for another person is.

It’s as if everyone is in such a hurry these days that they cannot slow down for 15 seconds to either open a door or hold open a door. Next time you go anywhere that involves a door, start to notice how many “holders” that you encounter and how many “shutters” that you see.

I bet you will be amazed if you already haven’t noticed.

The biggie with door opening is also noticing if someone needs help with it. Pay attention to the person holding a child, or groceries, or anything that seems as though it may complicate the door opening process.

If you are at a restaurant in the waiting area and ever think to yourself, “someone else will help them,” this thought means that you need to get up and help. Be the difference maker for this other person.

Set yourself apart from the millions of other people that don’t even pay enough attention to their surroundings to think about helping someone else.

Opening and holding doors for people = High Likeability.

Curt Fletcher aka The Likeability Guy, is a Real Estate Professional, Business Development Strategist, Published Author of the book, "How To Sell More Homes and Increase Your Income," Sales Trainer, and Professional Speaker that focuses on improving your Likeability to increase your Opportunities for Success!